“Long-standing goals”, throughout life the majority of us make a dream, a wish, a plan, and a goal to be a better person in society. Yet, most of us encounter difficulties and challenges seem to struggle and if we want to change these obstacles facing us we must first change the conditions of ourselves. SELF-SABOTAGE is one such area where we have to offer attempts to overcome and conquer it definitively or at least minimize its rate. In her book ‘Beyond survival’ the American author; ‘Maureen Brady’, (2009) stated that “In self-sabotage we can be both the victim & the victimizer.” This indicates that self-sabotage is the act of harming, destroying, damaging and obstructing ourselves.
When it comes to the reasons beyond this; we find many and most of them are the result of the surrounding environment and the negativity of society often influences this that causes also lack of self-esteem, depression, bad self-image and so on. Therefore, we are handling this subject to find effective solutions that are important in conquering this challenge. In this angle, Vironika Tugaleva mentioned that:
“The most dangerous way we sabotage ourselves is by waiting for the perfect moment to begin. Nothing works perfectly the first time, or the first fifty times. Everything has a learning curve. The beginning is just that – a beginning. Surrender your desire to do it flawlessly on the first try. It’s not possible. Learn to learn. Learn to fail. Learn to learn from failing. And begin today. Begin now. Stop waiting.”
This refers that first or even first fifty failures are not the urge that led you to give up on your goals and if one path does not work ensure to empty your mind from any negative spots instead always put in your head positive thoughts. Additionally, this signifies also that making mistakes and failing should be considered as experiences to learn from and lessons for our future life. Consequently, initial working must be today, now, at the current moment without any hesitation or delaying. After commencing you require planning through some tips and steps, here; some psychologists urge us to make visualization for our goals and see how and what we gain after accomplishing them. Stop making generalizations of everything and everyone because you don’t know everyone and you haven’t experienced everything. Finally, always remember that you are worthy enough to experience the new and attain the best so avoid any distraction or sabotaging for your inner self-image.